December 1, 2020

Commitment? What’s The Problem?

[jeff]It’s amazing what you can learn about someone on a 4-hour road trip to the backwoods of Tennessee.

I had an opportunity a few weeks ago to work a job a few states over. This involved driving with someone and the only way to pass the time is to talk about random stuff and listen to the tunes on the radio.

The fella I rode with was a young fella. He was smart and had a great outlook on life. He had dreams and was willing to work hard for them. He had a full-time job and also worked several part time jobs to help him get ahead in life.

He seemed to have it all together and I was amazed at how he put the puzzle pieces of life together. I was thinking, “If only other kids his age would put this much effort into their future. That would be cool!”

I later learned that he and his girlfriend had been together for years and were renting a place in town. They also had a child together.

According to him, it was a good relationship without the written contract of marriage.

Even though he planned to make that step one day, right now wasn’t the time because he was too busy working. Plus, their relationship was fine. Or at least he thought.

Unfortunately for him, any time you ride in a car with someone that looks for opportunities to share the Gospel, a conversation about God will get brought up. I should have warned him, but it sorta just happened. He freely shared his thoughts.

This fella went to church on occasion and believed in God. Which was good. He also read the Bible even though some of it didn’t make sense to him. He mentioned how he knew his girlfriend was saved and that he wasn’t. Uh oh! I immediately felt the need to explain to him what ‘being saved’ was all about and asked if he wanted to make that step.

Sadly, his reply was, “I’m just not ready to make that kind of commitment.” I was floored, but it made me do some thinking.

One thing I learned from this conversation is that this fella had a fear of making a commitment in a relationship – both physically and spiritually. And believe it or not, it’s more common than we know. What is the problem in making a commitment to someone that loves you?

Is it a fear of having a long term relationship?

Is it a fear of being hurt?

Was this fear created from a scarred past?

Who knows? Every one that has this ‘fear of commitment’ should take a closer look at their life and discover the root of the problem. They should get it squared up because it IS A PROBLEM.

I feel that many people are missing out on living the ‘perfect life’ that God intended for us to have by allowing fear to hold them back.

This type of fear is preventing folks from knowing what ‘true love’ is all about in a relationship – both physically and spiritually. Many are staying in the ‘safe zone’ with what they have without knowing there is something better.

There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love. – 1 John 4:18 KJV

You want perfect love in your life? It begins by making the step towards Jesus. He is love and would be the best and first place to start.

He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love. – 1 John 4:8 KJV

Grow a relationship with Him. Tell Him your fears and He will help you through them. Trust Him.

Delight thyself also in the LORD; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart. Commit thy way unto the LORD; trust also in him; and he shall bring [it] to pass. – Psalm 37: 4, 5 KJV

Every thing worthy that you’re working hard towards in life can be accomplished through Jesus. Making a commitment to Him and growing to love Him will trickle outward to others. Your life will change. Your relationship with others will change. All for the good. But, the problem right now is FEAR.

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