October 24, 2021

Pastoral Nuggets: Heather

Marianne and I have four children, two boys and two girls.

Heather Renee is the second oldest child and the oldest girl.

I should have known that things were going to be a little different with her when it took her three days to make her grand entrance into this world.

Marianne and I went to the hospital on a Monday for the doctor to induce labor. We waited all day. Nothing! They tried again Tuesday. Nothing. They tried again Wednesday and the birth process started.

However, Miss Heather Renee was so interested in seeing what was going on (Nosey) that she kept turning to the wrong position to be born. The doctor would reposition her, only for Marianne to have a contraction, and she would turn right back, trying to see what was happening!

In the process she got hung on Marianne’s pelvic bone. This necessitated a Cesarean Section. Consequently, she was born with a big ole bruise right between her eyes and the bridge of her nose.

This nosiness continued into her early childhood. I tell her she was absolutely the nosiest child I’ve ever seen. Marianne and I had a rule that when adults were visiting, the children had to leave the room and go play elsewhere.

On many occasions, I witnessed her walk straight into a wall while leaving a room. Why? Because she was looking backward trying to hear what the adults were saying!

As I stated earlier, Marianne and I have four children. And all four personalities are distinctly different. When it came to her siblings, (Her momma and me too!) Heather was always the touchy-feely motherly type. She thought it was her lot in life to tell them what they could and couldn’t do, how to do it, when to do it, and what to do if they got it wrong. She was their psychiatrist, doctor, nurse, fixer, and love advisor. Yep, as far as she was concerned, she was momma! However, that didn’t fly to well with them. But that’s another story for another day!

I suppose it’s no wonder that she became a Registered Nurse. However, she took the hard way getting there. When our children were about to graduate high school, Marianne and I told them that as long as they went straight to college – we paid their tuition. However, if they started, decided to quit, then decided to go back – tuition was on them.

This is exactly what she did. She wasted a year at West Georgia University in Carrollton, Georgia. She dropped out to take some time to find herself. She turned around twice and found herself with a husband and two babies. Suddenly, college became important. She enrolled in the RN Program at Southern Union.

With a husband and two babies, I watched as she worked the night shift at the hospital and attended classes during the day. She’s always been the biggest “daddy’s girl” as possible. But this was something she had to figure out on her own. I couldn’t do it for her. And when I watched her graduate as an RN, I’m sure I was the proudest daddy in the room!

One day she was stressing over a “c” average she had in one of her courses. I asked her if she knew what a RN student who passed a course with a “c” was called. She said, “No. What?” I said, “An RN!”

The Spiritual takeaways from the column today are numerous: First, sometimes we all have trouble getting started. Secondly, we all have distinct personality characteristics and traits that God uses to form us into who we are. Thirdly, sometimes we learn that careless choices have painful consequences. Fourthly, we learn that in reality, we alone control of our destiny.

And finally, we learn that with dedication, hard work, and the support of a loving husband and family, our hopes, dreams, and aspirations can be achieved. However, sometimes, this means you just have to suck it up and go! And she did!

By the way, in addition to everything else, Heather is now a Pastor’s Wife.

Brother Aaron


  1. Kathy Barnett says

    So sweet.

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