October 20, 2020

Pastoral Nuggets: Dealing With Disappointment

Brother-Aaron-236x300“Age does not diminish the extreme disappointment of having a scoop of ice cream fall from the cone.” … Jim Fiebig.

What a thought!  No matter how old you are, you still experience extreme disappointment when a scoop of ice cream falls from your cone.

Disappointing times, such as when the ice cream falls from your cone, are a “reality” in the “real world.”  There you are, fully expecting in the next moment or so, to experience the extreme exhilaration of gratifying your taste buds by taking a lick from your ice cream cone.

Then, you experience the extreme depths of disappointment, as in the next moment your ice cream is lying useless upon the floor, or worse, on the front of your clothes.

There is no way you can prepare for these moments. There is nothing to insulate you from them. They just happen, and you are forced to deal with them.

Life is a lot like an ice cream cone. Come to think of it, so is Christianity!  Sometimes we think we have everything figured out. We are about to take a gigantic lick off of our Spiritual ice cream cone. Our taste buds are salivating. We can hardly wait. Then, splat, our ice cream is lying there useless upon the floor, and we find ourselves bewildered and disappointed.

We find ourselves being forced to deal with a situation we neither expected, nor wanted.

In moments such as this we find it extremely difficult to mask our emotions and allow the love of Christ to shine through us.

Our tendency is to blame the ice cream manufacturer for not making the ice cream with the correct consistency. We want to blame the person behind the ice cream counter for not stacking the scoops correctly. We want to blame someone for bumping into us. And most certainly, we want to leave our mess for somebody else to clean.

However, when we find ourselves experiencing moments such as this, just maybe we should stop and consider that the Bible says: To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven.

Instead of being hurt & angry, perhaps we should realize that, just maybe it wasn’t God’s will for us to have that scoop of ice cream at this moment in our lives. Perhaps instead of becoming angry, hurt, and disappointed, we should praise God for working His will in our lives – even through our disappointments!

My children will tell you that many times, when disappointing life events occurred in their lives, they heard me say, “Suck it up and go!” They also heard me say things like, “Quit crying and put your big boy or big girl britches on.”

I was trying to teach them that disappointments are a part of life. Sometimes your scoop of ice cream falls to the ground. And when it does, nobody owes you anything.  The world won’t coddle you.  You have to deal with it, get up, and go on with your life.

Amazingly, they tell their children the same thing today!  The Bible says in Matthew 5:45, “That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust.”

Disappointment is a reality of life and dealing with it is something we all must learn to do.  I think all of us need to be reminded of this from time to time.

Brother Aaron

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